Classes

Entertaining, information-packed classes that have been called "better than a Vegas act”

Shay’s conference classes

These are classes that can be offered in 90-minute conference formats. Many can be modified to be 2-hour stand-alone classes.

The class list represents the range of topics Shay teaches. Final class selections are made collaboratively, taking into account supply/equipment/infrastructure requirements, travel constraints, program balance, demo partner availability, anticipated attendance numbers, experience level, topic range, progression, technical requirements, and overall fit for the event and the audience. Not all classes are available to teach at every event/venue. Please coordinate with Shay to determine the best-fit offerings and schedule.

Con classes: Rope and bondage

  • If you’ve ever said (or thought), "Rope takes too long!" "It’s too complicated!" or "I just want to do something fun/sexy/mean," we'll help you skip the fancy, difficult rope work in favor of versatile, easy-to-learn techniques with immediate applications. After a quick safety speed round (so the instructors can sleep at night), we’ll cover our top 10 tips and tricks, including methods for efficiently and effectively using rope as a tool, spiral-style experiential ties, and delightfully intense foot, calf, and body ties. This hands-on class encourages self-tying for certain exercises and partnered tying for others; you can come solo or with a partner. Absolutely no rope experience is necessary!

    Supplies: The instructors will have some loaner rope. To tie along, we recommend at least one half length (approx 15 feet) and one full length (approx 30 feet) of rope. Jute or hemp is preferred.

  • Focusing on principles and concepts rather than recipes and formulas, this class will discuss the reasoning behind different transition choices and build your ability to create unique sequences.  The instructors will bring the class along to collaboratively generate a demonstration transition sequence, discussing the “decision points” and pros and cons of different selections. Participants will then pick their paths to create partial and full suspension sequences.

    Supplies: A basic suspension kit.

    Pre-requisites: This class is intended for folks just starting to work through transitions in suspension and is self- or partnered-suspension friendly. 

    • Tyers: The ability to independently tie a suspension-worthy chest harness, hip harness (ideally a leg ladder), and secure hanger and upline configuration. 

    • Flyers: Ability to recognize and communicate physical and emotional concerns while in rope. Experience in partials and at least two suspension positions. 

    • Self-suspenders: All the requirements for both tyers and flyers, with specific experience in a self-suspension context.

    • Everyone: Knowledge of safety basics. Risk awareness and self-knowledge to participate at a level that is safe(r) for you. 

  • Explore the acrobatics and freedom of movement that rope can offer! This playful & unorthodox rig lends itself well to silly and exhibitionistic scenes…or to nasty predicaments! Shay will discuss the general principals of this type of suspension and specific safety concerns. She will then show several variations on a 2-point dynamic suspension. The hands-on portion of the class focuses on attaching from just the hips (using a woven hip harness). This class is very self-suspension friendly. Bring your rope kit if you’d like to practice along with the floorwork, and as time/equipment allows, we’ll get you in the air!

    Pre-requisites:

    Tops: This is a fast-moving class that assumes an intermediate level of suspension knowledge – it is not appropriate for bondage beginners. Tops should know, at minimum, suspension-ready chest harness, attaching support lines, and basics of evaluating hard points and negotiation for bondage. While a woven hip harness will be reviewed in class, familiarity with this type of tie will be advantageous.

    Bottoms: Body and health awareness to participate safely at a level that’s appropriate for your body. Mobile suspensions are not necessarily strenuous (they can be quite comfortable), but getting the most out of mobile suspensions requires body awareness. If you are not experienced with suspension, you might start with reading this article.

    Self-suspenders: Same requirements as for tops AND bottoms.

    Supply requirements: Your basic suspension kit. Nylon or MFP rope for the hip harness (2 x 30′) is recommended. Two rated ropes for uplines are required; Shay will have Amsteel to loan. At least two carabiners. If you have swivels or climbing straps/spansets, please bring those! Bottoms/self-suspenders should ideally wear snug leggings/tights.

    Set-up/logistic notes for event producers: This class requires 90 minutes for demo-only and a minimum of 2.5 hours for hands-on. Beam-style frames (or truss) is needed – each suspension requires two points spaced 2-3 feet apart, so obviously the number of class participants who can have “air time” depends on the number of such points that can be set up given the equipment available.

  • Explore dynamic movement with a minimalist and playful 'circus bondage'-style 3- to 5- point rig. An example suspension transition sequence using this structure will be demonstrated, as well as tips for flyers on taking full advantage of the freedom & flow offered by this suspension. Potential flyer-driven shapes include running person, splits, pinwheel, lotus, birdcage, pike, and many more. Unleash your inner aerialist – this is *not* traditional Shibari in any sense!

    The first half of class is a lecture and demo. In the remaining time, attendees with appropriate suspension experience may try the rig and/or the sequence. During the hands-on time, attendees will need to tie all required harnesses independently.

    This class is self- or partnered-suspension friendly. Anyone is welcome to observe. To participate in the hands-on portion, pre-requisites are:

    • Tiers: This fast-moving class requires an intermediate to advanced level of suspension knowledge – it is not appropriate for suspension bondage beginners. Tops should know, at minimum, suspension-ready chest harness (arms-free preferred, but arms-in may be used at the discretion of the tying pair), attaching support lines, and basics of negotiation and risk mitigation for suspension bondage.

    • Flyers: Body and health awareness to participate safely at a level appropriate for your body. Experience with suspension ties that heavily load the chest. 

    • Self-suspenders: Same requirements as for tiers AND flyers.

    Supplies: Your basic suspension kit. Synthetic/rated rope for all uplines and locking carabiners are strongly recommended; a minimum of one piece of rated rope for the critical upline is required. Instructors will have POSH and AmSteel available for attendees to borrow if needed. Flyers should ideally wear snug leggings and firm-soled shoes that can be tied over.

  • Rope can highlight, distort, or abstract the body to create a particular mood or visual effect, while providing sensations that range from comforting compression to viscous bite. This class will teach a range of straightforward, flexible patterns designed to facilitate connection and creativity. Whether your style leans sweet, seductive, or sadistic, you’ll leave with new ways to make your rope both pretty and mean. Ties may include a quick-release column tie, ornamental diamond body harness, bunny ears variation, face rope, and a bent leg tie, as well as exercises focused on tension, rope handling, and aesthetic intention. 

    Pre-requisites: This is an advanced beginner to intermediate floorwork class. Attendees should be familiar with single-column ties and bondage negotiation/risk awareness basics, and have the body awareness and communication skills to participate at a level that is safe(r) for them. The focus of this class is partnered tying, but activities can be modified to allow self-tying.

    Supplies: At least one piece of ~30' and one piece of ~15' rope (hemp or jute preferred). Cutting tool (safety shears preferred). 

    Class feedback:

    “As always, your classes were inspirational and gave us a big boost of energy to put on our little local event. We really noted this year how great a teacher you are. You were so prepared and had things timed out so precisely. Your effort was much appreciated.” – @Lilli_TeamFun, KinkFest 2026

    “I took your class with a couple of friends, and one of them was quite inspired by you to get more into rope, and she now hopes to do self-suspension eventually! i love the artistic and creative side of kink, and i felt like your classes fed that. – @letslovelain, KinkFest 2026

  • Lower body harnesses are foundational for many suspensions…or make great handles for bedroom bondage! After discussing basics like wrap placement and risk awareness, Shay will survey the class, and attendees will vote for the ties they most want to learn. Based on popular demand (and perhaps a bit of cajoling to choose her favorites), two pattern ties will be taught. Options include a swiss seat, butt star, woven hip harness, leg ladder, futomomo, and the elegantly named Butt Rainbow Thigh Tie of Doom. Throughout, there is a focus on explaining harness construction and building understanding, rather than relying on memorization.

    Ties shown in this class are suspension-worthy; Shay will demonstrate attaching hangers and using them for suspension, and participants with adequate experience can also get airborne. Attendees are also welcome to stay and focus on floorwork, as most of the class will concentrate on the harnesses themselves. Self-tyers welcome.

  • This class teaches Shay’s all-time favorite lower body harness: the compellingly named Butt Rainbow Thigh Tie of Doom. After a tie-along of this harness, we’ll use it to travel “around the world” through a suspension sequence that includes face-down, inversion, and face-up positions, as well as the “Figurehead,” with both self- and partnered options. Be aware that this minimalist tie and sequence may cause involuntary cursing, circus rope shenanigans, oddly specific rope marks, and newfound appreciation for kinder hip harnesses. To slightly decrease thigh doom, we highly recommend flyers wear snug-fitting leggings.

  • If ankle cuff inversions strike you as a grudge match with gravity, this class endeavors to offer a more cooperative conspiracy. We’ll walk through the gravity boot pattern – a friendlier route to getting gloriously upside-down from one foot while maintaining speaking terms with your ankles – and showcase its antics in a partial suspension before taking it for a spin in a full suspension sequence suitable for partnered or self-suspension play. Hands-on time will give attendees with appropriate experience time to try either the partial or (advanced) the suspension sequence. 

    Supplies: A basic suspension kit. Ideally, attendees will hang two suspension points; bring an extra strap if possible. Nylon rope is recommended for harnesses; at least one rated upline (nylon, POSH, etc) is required. 

    Pre-requisites: This class is self- or partnered-suspension friendly. 

    • Tyers: The ability to independently tie a suspension-worthy chest and hip harness and secure hanger and upline configuration. Experience tying partials and at least two suspension positions. 

    • Flyers: Ability to recognize and communicate physical and emotional concerns while in rope. Experience being in inversion.

    • Self-suspenders: All the requirements for both tyers and flyers, with specific experience in a self-suspension context.

    • Everyone: Knowledge of safety basics. Risk awareness and self-knowledge to participate at a level that is safe(r) for you. 

    No one tie will work for every human. This minimalist tie prioritizes movement over support. It is an “advanced” sequence from a flyer perspective.

  • There’s been a lot of research on effective warm-up, conditioning, stretching, and pain processing. Much of what we thought we knew years ago is probably wrong! For example, static stretching ≠ warm-up, and swearing at your top is evidence-based practice...let's talk about it!


    This class provides a nerdy, science-based overview of these topics. After reviewing the general principles, we’ll run through a warm-up, some conditioning and core exercises, and both static and dynamic stretches. 


    Every body is different. Understanding the research and your goals and intentions will help you make choices that works for you.


    This is a body-positive class that can be modified for a spectrum of physical abilities and explores these topics as an optional addition to your bondage skillset.


    Level: Beginner to intermediate

    Pre-requisites: Body and health awareness to participate safely at a level appropriate for your body.

    Supplies: Yoga mat if you have one, comfortable clothing to move around in (or comfort being nude for the hands-on portion).

  • Whatever your rigging problem, weaving is probably the answer! This class will discuss and demonstrate weaving as a general concept that can be integrated into many common ties and use these techniques in teaching at least two pattern ties – a versatile woven hip harness and the “Triskilion” chest harness, which is especially well-suited for flatter chested folks. Weaving makes your harnesses more comfortable & sustainable, helps maintain tension while keeping bondage flat, and creates a sleek aesthetic…while also being easy to learn & execute! Depending on time and class experience level, we will touch on suspension using these harnesses, and possibly foot harness options. 

    Level: Intermediate (201) floor work. This class is self-tying friendly, however, the chest harness is an intermediate to advanced level self-tie that requires tying high behind your back.

    Pre-requisites: Basic rope handling skills, single column ties, body awareness, knowledge of bondage negotiation basics

    Supplies: 2-3 pieces of ~30 foot rope, 2-3 pieces of ~10-15 foot rope. Nylon is recommended, but jute/hemp are also fine. 6mm is recommended, but no larger than 8mm.

  • Upper body harnesses are foundational for many suspensions…as well as being lovely for decorative floorwork, or great handles for bedroom bondage! After a discussion of basics like wrap placement and risk awareness, Shay will survey the class and attendees will vote for the ties they most want to learn. Based on popular demand (and perhaps a bit of cajoling to choose her favorites), ties covered may include a basic shinju-style chest harness with weaving variations (including “heart harness” and binder-like modifications), figure-8 chest harness, teardrop harness, and a hishi-style (diamond) chest harness.

    All the ties shown in this class are suspension-worthy; Shay will demonstrate attaching hangers and using them for suspension, and participants with adequate experience can practice this as well. Attendees are also welcome to come and stick with floorwork, as the majority of the class will focus on the harnesses themselves. Self-tyers welcome, but note that the harnesses shown are difficult self-ties that require creating frictions and hitches behind your back. Variations for different body shapes, and to focus on minimizing (or emphasizing) chest tissue, will be discussed.

  • Let’s be big geeky nerds about bondage risk! If discussing the nuances of concepts like risk homeostasis, perception gap, risk compensation, and the dilution effect sound fascinating, you’ll be in the right place. This class opens with a dive into the science of risk evaluation (spoiler alert: we suck at it but can learn to be better), followed by an overview of some bondage-specific hazards, from rope breaks to nerve injury to vector forces. It also includes an entertaining and perilous demo designed to highlight some, ah, potential growth opportunities as a tool to enhance your ability to assess your partner’s safety and expertise. Rather than promoting “one true way,” Shay will encourage you to develop your risk tolerance profile, “budget” your risk, and improve your ability to know what you don’t know.

    Pre-reqs: No bondage experience is required. Folks interested in all aspects of rope (tying, being tied, self-tying, etc.) are welcome to attend.

    Attendees have said about this class:

    “I like your teaching style. You have great topics, present in a way that appeals to the right side of the curve, leave a lot of things open-ended (not twue wayism), and confidently say if you don’t know something. I got some good things out of it. I’m glad I attended. Thank you” – KnottyWordz

    “Thank you so so much; this class was fabulous! As always, you are a rockstar, and I learned so much. Plus, it was super fun, and loved how interactive you made it!” – Alicia

    “Super informative and engaging!” – M

  • Sexy (or silly!) bondage doesn’t have to involve fancy rope or tricky techniques. Keep it easy and fun by using informal restraints created from neckties!

    Shay will briefly discuss safety and communication for restraint, then jump into demos and hands-on practice creating bondage with neckties. The basic techniques you’ll learn in this class can be used to create a hog tie, spread eagle, frog tie, box tie position (hands behind back), and more!

    Throughout the class, Shay will discuss and demonstrate variations like limb to limb bondage vs. tying off to furniture (including tips on using beds), specifics like crab and T-rex ties, execution in context, dynamic (and cooperative) bondage bottoming, and setting and maintaining a mood for your scene (from sexy to silly to sadistic).

    The instructors will have some neckties for class use (bring some of your own if you can) – the first 50 attendees will receive a tie for hands-on practice! Attending with a partner is not required — most basic techniques can be practiced on yourself or with a partner.

    (This class is lecture, demo, discussion, and hands-on.)

  • It's after dark and time to get a little more Adult – come participate in a fun, friendly, and nerdy intro to rope bondage! Not just for restraint, rope can be used decoratively, for sensation, and as a geeky but sensual way to connect with a partner (or yourself). Combining the best of topology, fiber arts, and sexy times, because we know all these Venn diagrams are basically just a circle. No partner or supplies are required; you can practice on yourself, and there will be rope to borrow.

  • Mermaid ties are classic, adaptable harnesses that are both visually striking and functional in suspension. This tie is an excellent alternative for those who prefer to avoid inner thigh pressure from traditional hip harnesses and enjoy the snug, compressive feeling of lower body restriction. We’ll begin by breaking down the structure and variations for this pattern tie. Once everyone’s tails are secured, we’ll explore a few suspension shapes and transitions. Come ready to dive into the details and discover your own flow.

    Supplies: A basic suspension kit.

    Pre-requisites: This class is self- or partnered-suspension friendly. 

    • Tyers: The ability to independently tie a suspension-worthy chest harness and secure hanger and upline configuration. 

    • Flyers: Ability to recognize and communicate physical and emotional concerns while in rope. Experience in partials and at least two suspension positions. 

    • Self-suspenders: All the requirements for both tyers and flyers, with specific experience in a self-suspension context.

    • Everyone: Knowledge of safety basics. Risk awareness and self-knowledge to participate at a level that is safe(r) for you.

  • Sexy bondage doesn't require a toy bag full of dedicated supplies. This class explores creative restraint using everyday materials, keeping things seductive, spontaneous, and accessible.

    Shay will cover safety and communication basics before diving into demos and discussion spanning a wide range of "found" materials: from the expected (neckties, duct tape) to the less obvious (shirts, pillowcases, Saran Wrap, and more). Topics include limb-to-limb vs. furniture ties, dynamic (and cooperative) bondage bottoming, and how to set and maintain a scene mood, from sexy to silly to sadistic.

    Hands-on practice will focus on neckties and vet wrap, which Shay will provide. Bring a partner if you'd like to practice together; the techniques can also be explored solo.

    This beginner-level class combines lecture, demo, discussion, and hands-on practice.

Con classes: non-rope

  • A playful, energetic guide to sparking connections and creating stellar scenes. We think science is sexy, so expect a generous dose of research and geekery applied to kinky play! A little knowledge goes a long way in the journey from “nice to meet you” to “hell yes, it’s a playdate” to “let's share Google calendars” – with demos, roleplay scenarios, and actionable tips, we'll help you co-create scenes (and kink relationships) that feel hot and satisfying for everyone involved.

    Attendees have said:

    "I enjoyed your “Turn Ons” class at KK last weekend. You really brought the energy and enthusiasm, but you balanced that nicely with a well-structured, informative, and engaging presentation! The audience participation scenarios were especially my favorite. I feel pretty new to kink and attending play parties, and hearing those scenarios, along with the other recommendations, helped me build some meaningful connections in the dungeon that night, I’m sure that I’ll use those strategies again in the future. Thanks for sharing your insight and helpful instructional strategies with us at KK, and I hope to attend more of your classes in the future!" – @happy_to_help

  • On the edge of sensation and decoration, we'll demonstrate techniques for creating skin designs using sterile scalpels and inexpensive, inkless tattoo machines. Art ability is optional (we sure don't have any); we'll demonstrate applying and tracing stencils chosen to maximize your design's aesthetic outcomes! Flow-y and attention-centric, this type of play is perfect for those who like focused sensation, lasting mementos, and art with a red base color. While we teach – and preach! – that any break in the skin should be assumed to scar, the class focus is play (as opposed to body modification), with techniques and aftercare to maximize chances for creating marks that leave traces for months rather than years. The instructor is decidedly not a tattoo artist and approaches this topic from a perspective of reinventing the use of existing tools for kink, with a focus on RACK and harm reduction.

    One should assume that any break in the skin WILL scar and be there forever.

    Pre-requisites: This is not a 101 class. Attendees should have an understanding of negotiation and risk mitigation for play that breaks the skin, including bodily fluid containment, maintaining a clean zone, detailed health negotiation, etc.

    Attendees have said:

    “We found it beautiful how you interleaved multiple stories of scars being keepsakes between partners or transitions from old to new relationships. i was browsing tattoo machines for a few months and that gave me the push to finally get one. i love the artistic and creative side of kink, and i felt like your classes fed that for me. thank you for doing what you do!” – @letslovelain, KinkFest 2026

  • To all the geeks out there who think a ridiculous PowerPoint deck and an extensive bibliography sound like a good time, this one's for you! Extreme science nerd Shay will provide a broad overview of their favorite kink-related (or kink-applicable, or even just too damned interesting to leave out) studies and geeky tidbits, and relate these to a ridiculously broad array of BDSM topics. From cognitive biases to hedonic reversal to the vagus nerve to pain processing to vector forces to mirror neurons, we'll examine questions as basic as "why are we into this kinky stuff, anyway" and as specific as "why shouldn't I string a line between two lil trees and use it as a hardpoint?" For science!

  • This isn’t always serious work we do! Predicaments are all about getting between the proverbial “rock and hard place” (and laughing as your partner is flummoxed by their situation); playful BDSM is about giggling together in scene, with both partners participating creating the “torment.”

    This class will show you how to bring a different level of engagement to your BDSM play and go beyond giving and receiving sensations – create story lines and connect mentally with your partner. Shay will address both the top and bottom’s perspective, including communicating within the mood of your scene and discussion of bratting.

    Leave your rope bag at home – this is NOT a bondage class! In addition to demonstrating many specific predicaments and games, the instructors will discuss this type of play in a broad sense to guide you in developing your own unique scenes.

    (This class is mostly demo and lecture, with some discussion.)

    (Note that specific demo partners are required for this class, and thus it will not be an option for some events.)

  • Love may be a burning thing, but your fire play should be mindful and conscientious. Literally playing with fire carries inherent risks – this class starts from a harm reduction perspective, with a foundation of safety, consent, risk mitigation, and bottoming education. Fire tools and receiving fire play will be discussed, followed by specific techniques, including fire wands, spray, flash, foam, and cupping, with explanations of the process's details and rewards. If you're bound by a wild desire to fall into a ring of fire, the instructors will give you the background to start the process as safely and skillfully as possible!

    Feedback on Pyro-Passion:

    "It was a great class. You two are very dynamic, knowledgeable and entertaining presenters. Not a dull moment and lots of good information." -technowench

    "This was by far the best class I've ever been to. You guys made it informative, funny, and entertaining the whole way through. And I'm definitely going to keep an eye out for your guys' other classes in the future."-Kala

    "I thought the fireplay class and demo you presented was one of the best I've ever attended. You guys are soooo entertaining"- John

    "I learned so much, and I really want to start practicing and improving my skills. You two are the best instructors, and you play off of each other so well. It's like an educational class, floor show, comedy show, and love fest all rolled into one - just amazing. And it doesn't hurt to have the best & most beautiful stunt bottoms in the world, either ;-)"- Andrew

    “You guys are adorable together and a pleasure to watch, and I learned a lot in the classes as well! Of course I won't lie that I could be happy watching you read a phonebook... :-P” –Fish

    “I just wanted to thank you again for your great fire classes. We've been doing fire for about a year but love all of the new ideas that we got from you.” -Anon

    “After ~15-20 years in and out (slightly more out) of the scene it's rare that I find something totally new that I've never tried and truly enjoy but y'all knocked it out of the park. It was so easy and MUCH safer than I anticipated. Obviously, I need to learn a good bit more before introducing it into actual play but you two whet my palate for the genre in a major way - thank you so much for that! The combo of fire+blood play is... exceptionally compelling.” -Le

    “We found the fire play classes very informative and entertaining; bravo, bravo, and thank you for doing them. You are both lovely to watch, and I got an extra kick out of the 'meows' and 'yips' you make when playing. SUPER-CUTE.” -Anon

    "Wonderful fire play class last night. Thank you very much for the informative and hands-on instruction. I especially liked how you demonstrated within a scene how it can be used sensually and/or sadistically."-S3x

  • This highly interactive class will look at sexy, intense, silly, and entertaining ways to “decorate” the cocks in your life. The instructors will start with a basic discussion of anatomy, safety considerations, negotiation, and circumcised vs. intact vs. strap-on cocks, then move into formal accessories like cock rings and chastity devices. They will then demonstrate multiple cock and ball bondage techniques, including using bondage to create a cock ring, wrapping everything up in a neat (and easy!) package, making a cock “helicopter,” creating a kynodesme (google it!), and cock bondage for chastity. Class participants are encouraged to practice along and get creative! The instructors will provide cord for in-class use. They may be able to facilitate people pairing up (or you can practice on yourself), but you’re encouraged to come to this session with an enthusiastically consenting “stunt cock” of your own.

  • Case Scenarios focuses on general risk awareness for a playspace environment and a non-internationalist, customer service and anticipatory approach to the role of dungeon monitors (DMs). It is highly recommended for both experienced and aspiring DMs and event hosts, but is also informative (and entertaining!) for those who do not plan to DM, providing valuable information about safety and incident management, as well as orientation to common playspace rules and etiquette. Come see why this class has been called “The best DM training. Ever.” and “A show that must be taken on the road.”

    After a brief introduction, the instructors will jump into interactive roleplay scenes, inviting class volunteers to manage and analyze these situations.

    While every DM shift is unique (and different venues may have very disparate rules and training requirements), the scenarios are chosen to stimulate thinking and encourage development of critical thinking skills that will serve in any play environment.

    Note that being a DM is a challenging role that is not a fit for everyone. DMing requires event and venue specific orientation, and taking this class alone does not qualify nor endorse participants to take on the DM role.

    (This class is demo, lecture, discussion, and interactive/hands-on.)

    Feedback on Case Scenarios DM Training:

    “Very entertaining and informative for sure… We had a great time… I think you guys should take that show on the road – you’d be a hit everywhere!”

    “My thanks to you both for hosting such a beneficial Case Scenarios class. I found it to be educational, comical, sincere, and very engaging. The hands-on experience was great, and while I am shy, it just felt right to participate thanks to the environment you created.” – @Auyestiin

    “Maybe a little too much ketchup ;-). You and Stef were amazing as usual. Thank you for what you do.” -@SearayCA

    “I loved the structure of your course. Dropping us into scenarios like that really engraved the details to me. I also had a lot of fun :)” -@bio_alchemist

    “The case scenarios DM training class was fantastic, very informative, it allowed me to view scenarios that I would have maybe never thought about, or even seen for many years. It will not only help me immensely as a DM but in considering my own dungeon etiquette.”

    “Better than a Vegas act!”

    “Both informational and hilarious.”

    “This is the best DM training I’ve ever attended. The style of instruction was so engaging. Thank you!”cription

  • Bottoming skills are often overlooked, but they are they are the skillziest skillz in BDSM! Whether your dynamic is brat play or high protocol D/s, there are verbal and non-verbal methods you can use during a scene to give feedback and guidance to ultimately make a more satisfying experience for yourself and your partner(s).

    In addition to the focus on in-scene communication, this class will include interactive activities to help you approach tops for play, discussion about negotiation (hint: it isn’t just passively being interrogated by the top!), and tips on taking care of yourself before & after a scene.

    (This class contains elements of demo, lecture, discussion, and class interaction.)

  • Kick off your event with an energetic, interactive, entertaining, and informative orientation! This session is especially recommended for dungeon first-timers, covering everything from exhibitionist etiquette to flirting tips to common dungeon missteps. A generous sprinkling of psychological science and sexy & silly demos means that even experienced kinksters will come away with new insights!

    For producers: We offer this orientation tailored to your specific event/venue rules and priorities. Please contact us for additional information!

  • No more groping in the dark — this introductory session invites you to learn and experience techniques to bring fire play to your hands, including crafting your fire wand! Learn about safety, supplies, and creating a fire play scene. Witness the versatility of fire wands with demonstrations in fire wand technique, including blowing, trailing, combining fire wands with impact play, and various two-wand styles.

    Fire play requires constant attention to the details of the process as well as the rewards — the instructors will emphasize safety and mindfulness.

    The instructors will provide materials and assistance in making fire wands. Class participants will then have a chance to try out their new wands as a top or bottom! Attendees are strongly encouraged to switch roles.

    (This class is demo and lecture for the first sections, then hands-on.)

    Feedback on Wave Your Magic FireWand:

    “You are very lovely, smart, and dynamic speakers, and I would go to another of your workshops in a heartbeat.” -islandladibug

    “You guys are adorable together, and a pleasure to watch, and I learned a lot in the classes as well! Of course, I won’t lie; I could be happy watching you read a phonebook… :-P” –Fish

    “We found the fire play classes very informative and entertaining; bravo, and thank you for doing them. You are Steph. You are both lovely to watch, and I got an extra kick out of the ‘meows’ and ‘yips’ you make when playing. SUPER-CUTE.” -Anon

  • Whether you’re grinding through a marathon gaming session, striking the perfect pose in your cosplay, dodging LARP attacks, or just trying to survive the con weekend, movement matters! Set aside middle school gym class memories for a body-positive, participation-optional, fun, and function-focused take on feeling good in our meat suits. This class blends evidence-based training with nerdy facts (for example, studies show that exercise breaks improve game performance), including a brief (optional) participatory chair mobilization guided session. We want to give you tools to feel better, move smarter, and level up!

    Your presenter is a healthcare professional, aerial performer, and lifelong geek dedicated to accessible education.

  • Like any complex system, your brain and body are full of exploits. We’ll examine the “bugs” baked into human cognition and physiology, and “hacks” that can allow you to work with the system instead of fighting it. 

    Shay will provide a broad and often humorous overview of their favorite studies and geeky tidbits, relating these to a ridiculously broad array of topics, including:

    • Cognitive biases 

    • Hedonic reversals and adaptation

    • The vagus nerve and activating your parasympathetic nervous system

    • Amplification hypothesis

    • Flow, gratitude, and the study of happiness

    • …and many more.

    This class is research-grounded, with prolific slides, citations, and examples. The goal isn’t prescriptive self-optimization; it’s understanding the system well enough to debug it when it’s working against you. 

    We'll examine questions as basic as "what are effective ways connect with new people and make friends" and as specific as "why do I enjoy the burn of a spicy meal?" as we review some of the “rules” of the game we’re all playing with our own minds and bodies. For science! 

    Your presenter is a healthcare professional, aerial performer, and lifelong geek dedicated to accessible education.

Shay’s intensives and stand-alone classes:

These are classes that can be offered in afternoon intensive formats or are stand-alone classes (such as the self-tie jam series, which is taught locally as a series of 1-hour classes preceding a rope jam). Some may be available to modify for conferences – this is subject to negotiation.

Intensives & other classes

  • Self-suspension can be used for dynamic movement, intense sensation, performance, education for partnered bondage, ritual, and more. After discussing general principles and safety considerations specific to self-suspension, participants will tie a chest and hip harness, practice support line skills, and tie through a basic face-up self-suspension, with a possible transition to an inversion.

    Prerequisites: This class is intended as a "101" level introduction to self-suspension. Attendees should have extensive experience tying on the ground (both topping and bottoming or self-tying) and be very comfortable with non-cinching single column ties. To self-suspend in class, participants should have the risk and body awareness to participate at a level that is safe(r) for them. (Please consult your doctor if you’re unsure.)

    Supplies: A basic self-suspension kit, including two synthetic uplines (we recommend POSH). At least four suspension-worthy carabiners and either a suspension ring or rigging plate; OR a minimum of six carabiners without a ring or a rigging plate. Some supplies may be available to borrow—please contact Shay with any questions.

    Attendees have said:

    “The best kink class we've ever taken. Not only an efficient curriculum that got us a ton of key skills -- and into the air! (after years of trying to find a good course) -- but you're such an concise, funny, and effective educator." – BunnyHole

    Anonymous feedback from Tethered Together 2024:

    “I flew for the first time and happy cried! Thank you, Shay!”

    “Amazing and organized class. Best of the weekend. Huge amount of information.”

    “Shay packed so much in and I was able to follow along well and get a lot out of the workshop! Her voice and presence were very accessible for me.”

    “Shay was well rehearsed and on top of her game and I deeply admire how perfectly her class was timed down to the minute - a true professional. Shay was so warm and funny and welcoming and knew her stuff and it was so comforting to someone just starting to figure things out.”

    “This was a fantastic class. I felt empowered and proud when I left. I can’t say enough good things about this class and Shay as a presenter.”

    “She was able to cover SO MUCH material in one class! So many people did their first ever self suspension all because of how wonderfully Shay was able to teach us and ensure we were doing it safely.”

  • Explore the freedom and dynamism that rope can offer, and get frisky with those uplines! This class focuses on two of our favorite mobile suspensions, as well as our signature dynamic performance sequence. It is self- or partnered- suspension friendly.

    After an introduction to risk mitigation, supplies, and preparing your body for this type of suspension (including participation-optional guidance through a brief warm-up), we will teach two separate rigs, with the first focused on flyer-driven movement and hip-loading while the second is more chest-loading and collaborative between tyer and flyer. 

    The first suspension will get flyers flipping out – we will teach a woven hip harness and attaching to this for a 2-point puppet/mobile suspension. 

    The second rig will include two variations on the triangle suspension and a sequence utilizing this rig. The transition sequence goes from seated position → triangle suspension → face up → inversion → face down → partial. Tips for taking full advantage of the freedom & flow offered by the triangle suspension will be included; potential shapes include running person, splits, pinwheel, lotus, birdcage, and pike. Attendees should be prepared to independently tie a chest harness; depending on time, we may do a tie-along of woven foot cuffs and the Butt Rainbow hip harness, and show the Teardrop arms-free chest harness (which is especially useful for flatter-chested flyers, but extremely challenging to self-tie). Throughout, the focus is on fun and learning to take advantage of the kinetics and flow offered by these suspensions. 

    While mobile suspensions are not necessarily strenuous (they can be quite comfortable), they can also be potentially vigorous. Let's do some weird "circus rope" together!


    Pre-requisites:

    • Tiers: This fast-moving class requires an intermediate to advanced level of suspension knowledge – it is detail-oriented and inappropriate for suspension bondage beginners. Tiers should be able to independently tie, at minimum, suspension-ready chest harness (arms-free preferred, but arms-in may be used at the discretion of the tying pair) and hip harness, as well as have knowledge of attaching support lines and basics of negotiation and risk mitigation for suspension bondage.

    • Flyers: Body awareness to participate at a safe(r) level for you. These rigs involve inversion and dynamic ties that load the chest, hips, thighs, and feet. 

    • Self-suspenders: Same requirements as tiers and flyers. The second suspension requires attaching an upline to the back of a chest harness. Self-suspenders may optionally bring a non-tying spotter, but this is not required.

    Supplies:

    See this page for rope kit information. Rated rope for critical uplines is required; the instructor will have a limited amount of AmSteel and POSH to loan out. Please bring two rated slings if possible, as portions of this class require hanging two separate points. The instructor will also have some extra slings available. Flyers should ideally wear snug leggings and may optionally bring ankle-height shoes that can be tied over. Please contact Shay (shay.sfblondie AT gmail) with any questions.

  • Taking a "fuck around and (safely!) find out" approach to bondage, this is a friendly, approachable, raw-beginner-level introduction to rope. With an eye toward focusing on "why" rather than "how," attendees will learn versatile, foundational building blocks and core principles for Western-style bondage.

    This class is dedicated to concepts, not specific pattern ties (although we will incorporate pattern ties into this structure) – come prepared to participate in an exploratory process and build a deeper understanding of rope bondage. In addition to technical tying, foundational topics for partnered bondage (such as negotiation, communication, and risk mitigation) will be briefly introduced.

    While partnered bondage is the focus of this session, many of the participatory activities involve self-tying. Please come prepared to both tie and be tied!

    Pre-requisites: No bondage experience necessary. Knowledge of consent and negotiation basics and awareness of you and your partners' preferences, limits, needs, etc. Body awareness to participate and interact at a level that is safe(er) and consensual for you and your partner.

    Supplies: If you have rope, bring what you've got! The instructors will have lots to loan out. Either nylon or natural fiber rope works for this class; some activities will involve contrasting the two. Shorter (about 15-foot) pieces are ideal, but longer is also fine.

    Attendees have said:

    “Thank you so much for the wonderful class last night! We had an amazing time and I'm really blown away by your ability to teach. I can't believe how much we learned in that time frame. And of course, it was just plain fun! :D" – xxMissCara

    "Thank you for the class last night. Learning new ways to get to do single, double, and other fundamentals was great. I regret not taking your class first; you made rope feel so attainable and approachable. My partner, who had never tied before, was so excited when we left. Fantastic class!" - Lyber

  • This friendly introduction to Western-style partnered suspension includes an overview of general principles, safety considerations, risk mitigation, negotiation, and body awareness for suspension. The class will guide participants through a suspension sequence from face-up to inversion to face-down. Upline management and partnered communication will be emphasized. While pattern ties will be shown, the focus of the class is on teaching principles and concepts, not formulas and recipes.

    Prerequisites: This class is an introduction to Western-style partnered suspension. Attending with a partner is required – we love self-suspension, but that is a different class! Within the role they will take in class (tying or flying), attendees should have extensive experience with floor bondage and be comfortable with non-cinching single-column ties, communication in a bondage context, and at least three harnesses/pattern ties. To suspend in class, participants should have the risk, skill, and body awareness to participate at a level that is safe(r) for them. Please consult your doctor if you have health concerns, particularly regarding chest loading and/or inversions. The class includes an arms-out chest harness and a Swiss seat-style hip harness.

    Supplies: A basic suspension kit, including two rated synthetic uplines (we recommend POSH). At least four rated locking carabiners and either a suspension ring, rigging plate, or at least two additional carabiners if you do not have a ring or a rigging plate. We recommend that flyers wear snug-fitting leggings or shorts that extend at least 1/3 of the way down the thighs. Some supplies may be available to borrow — please contact Shay with any questions.

  • Self-tying can be used to explore intense sensation, practice mindfulness, build partnered bondage skills, and more. This session begins with Shay's Safety Speed Round (so she can sleep at night), intention, rope handling basics, and by teaching the building blocks of a lark’s head and half hitch. Following that, we will move into teaching two basic single column ties for self-tie floorwork, free-form spiral-style floor self-bondage, and applying three key aspects of flow states to bring yourself into the present with self-bondage. 

    No rope experience is necessary – this is a welcoming, stand-alone, beginner-level class. 

  • Self-tying can be used to explore intense sensation, practice mindfulness, build partnered bondage skills, and more. This session begins with Shay's Safety Speed Round (so she can sleep at night), intention, rope handling basics, and by teaching the building blocks of a lark’s head and half hitch. Following that, we will move into discussion & practice of compression-based self-ties, including exercises focused on tension and aesthetic intention explored through variations on a mermaid tie, chest tie, and intense foot and calf self-bondage.

    No rope experience is necessary – this is a welcoming, stand-alone, beginner-level class. 

  • Self-tying can be used to explore intense sensation, practice mindfulness, build partnered bondage skills, and more. This session begins with Shay's Safety Speed Round (so she can sleep at night), intention, rope handling basics, and by teaching the building blocks of a lark’s head and half hitch. Following that, we will learn variations on gauntlets, weaving, introduction to double column ties, and an ornamental body harness.

    No rope experience is necessary – this is a welcoming, stand-alone, beginner-level class. 

Online classes:

These classes have previously been offered in a virtual format. Given current scheduling constraints, booking for online classes is not currently being offered. This page is retained as an archive of past offerings and may be updated if virtual availability changes.

Online Classes

  • To all the geeks out there who think a ridiculous PowerPoint deck, multiple choice poll questions, and an extensive bibliography sounds like a good time, this one’s for you! Extreme science nerd Shay will provide a broad overview of their favorite kink-related (or kink-applicable, or even just too damned interesting to leave out) studies and geeky tidbits, and relate these to a ridiculously broad array of BDSM topics. From cognitive biases to hedonic reversal to pain processing to mirror neurons, we’ll examine questions as basic as “why are we into this kinky stuff, anyway” and as specific as “what is the science behind intermittent positive reinforcement” and “how does disgust relate to arousal?” For science!

    Formatting note: This is an online class.

  • Turning off your worries and being fully immersed in the moment can be challenging…especially now. After a brief discussion of safety for self-tying, this session will explore the concept of flow, and how to apply three key aspects of flow states to bring yourself into the present with self-bondage. Free-form spiral-style floor bondage, fluid rope handling, and making self-bondage more intense (some might say “painful”) will be discussed and demonstrated. This session includes optional participatory activities – if you’d like to tie along, recommended supplies include at least two full (approximately 30′) lengths of rope and an appropriate cutting tool.

  • Many folks who educate adults on kink and sexuality figure out how in the process of doing it. As the saying goes, experience is the best teacher – but tuition is very high! Based on their combined two plus decades of kink presenting, vanilla teaching, and event programming direction, Stefanos & Shay will share their top ten* teaching tips and tricks. Topics run from research on memorable content organization (spoiler: Shay may sing) to bottom-led education to sex-demo-specific suggestions drawn from Stefanos’ porn experience. Whether you’re an aspiring newcomer or seasoned presenter, this session will help you put some extra finesse and vivacity into your classes.

    * Actual number of tips is 11. Of course it goes to 11.

Legacy classes (not currently being offered)

  • (Event organizers: Due to the intense nature of this class, we are currently only offering it on a limited basis and within specific scheduling guidelines. Please contact us for more information.)

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    Forced sex roleplay, fear, blood, interrogation, resistance… playing on the brink can be vastly rewarding, but also psychologically and physically dangerous (which is of course part of the appeal). Stefanos & Shay will demonstrate & discuss types of edge play scenes, negotiation & aftercare for this type of play, and the how & why of taking yourself (and your partner/s) to the limit…and then pulling them (and yourself) back.

    This class includes numerous demos, including emotional edge play, sexual consensual non-consent, gun play, blood/needles, use of “trigger words,” and rough body play, as well as discussion about limits and risk awareness in the context of edge play. Throughout, Stefanos & Shay emphasize using edge play for catharsis and empowerment.

    This class is not for beginners and contains content that many participants find triggering (often in unexpected ways). NO LATE ENTRY allowed for this session.

    (This class is mostly demo and lecture, with some discussion.)

  • Description text goes hereGet out of the box and create your own unique power exchange dynamic! This class is about breaking away from “traditional” D/s or M/s to formulate relationship models and protocols that are unique to YOU.

    Stefanos & Shay will draw from their years of experience in an unconventional D/s relationship to discuss & demonstrate the use of creative protocols to establish headspace for a scene, including applying the concept of “flow” to make your scenes soar. They will start with verbal protocols, focused on manners of address and communicating within the “mood” of your dynamic (particularly from the s-type’s perspective). Next they’ll cover physical protocols, with a focus on position training. The class is peppered with insights gleaned from positive psychology and applying relationship research to D/s, because science is sexy!

    (This class contains elements of demo, lecture, discussion, and class interaction.)

  • Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is outpacing Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC) as a model for What It Is That We Do (WIITWD) – and soon acronyms may take over BDSM completely! While much lip service is paid to the concept, are we really practicing RACK? We spend a lot of time talking about the “consent” part (rightfully), and “kink” is pretty much a given. However, “risk awareness” is often assumed. Bottoms, it’s your body on the line here – do you know the dangers (and safer practices) of flogging, bondage, play piercing and breath control?

    Stefanos & Shay will start this session with a self-assessment that includes questions about many different types of play and use this as an outline to discuss risk awareness, from specific health considerations to heavy impact to cutting to suspension (including demos designed to enhance your ability to assess your top’s safety and expertise with different types of play). They will also discuss the science of human risk evaluation (spoiler alert: we suck at it but can learn to be better) and the distinction between hazards, risks, and things that are scary. Rather than promoting “one true way,” they will encourage you to develop your risk tolerance profile and “budget” your risk. Tops are also welcome to attend, as this session may enhance your pre-scene communication and ability to “RACK up” your bottoms. (This class is a demo, lecture, and discussion.)

    Feedback on RACK Me Up:

    “I just wanted to thank you again for a wonderful class today! Being my first class wasn’t sure what to expect. I have heard great things about you, and it was a pleasure being there today. This class was so welcoming and comfortable. And I learned a lot!” -p.f

    “Thanks for the class. I thoroughly enjoyed it. You and Stefanos are excellent teachers; I’d love to watch and learn from you any day! I’m a newbie and am just starting to put myself out there, and I admire the dynamic you and Stefanos have together. I look forward to attending more of your classes” – K & A

    “Quite possibly the best class I’ve ever taken in this community.” -TopKai

    “Thank you for such a fun, engaging, and informative class! I look forward to attending more of your events in the near future!” -@Menomena

  • “Present! Ready! Kneel! Expose! Expose Ass! Apology!”

    If you pictured yourself (or your sexy s-type) going through those positions and got excited, this class is for you! Position training has many variations – it can be used to initiate and build a D/s dynamic, to create sadistic predicaments, or as a “dance” of connection between partners (to name just a few!). Stefanos and Shay will discuss and demonstrate specific example positions (like the ones listed above), variations like numbered positions, and the use of signals. They will also demonstrate types of position training scenes, from yelling out orders like a drill sergeant (with severe punishments for fuck-ups) to delicately guiding a cherished pet through a posture performance. Interactive activities will help you focus on individualizing these positions and scene types to your turn-ons, limitations, interests, and dynamics. (This class contains demo, lecture, discussion, and class interaction elements.)

    Quotes about Strike A Pose:

    “I was asked about my favorite class at Fusion, and as I thought about it, I realized there was a definitive answer. Between the absolute delight of watching the presenters interact in a very entertaining way, the fantastic ideas that will definitely have a large impact on the way I will play in the future, and even having a handout to aid my erratic memory – my favorite class was, without question, Position Training. :-)” – Vampire_Ken

    “I would like to extend my thanks for the position training class you taught. It was a fantastic experience for me. I am always looking for ways to improve myself both as a submissive and as a person, and this class allowed me to figure out ways to work on both. I truly appreciate the time and energy you took to teach, show, and lead. I look forward to working on the positions I was shown and creating others that work well with myself and my partners. I also look forward to seeing you around the scene and hope to learn more from and about you. Thank you.” -@D_Valerian

  • Someone has fainted… fallen from suspension… appears drunk… do you know what to do? Based on the wildly popular Case Scenarios Dungeon Monitor Training class they created and have run since 2007, this session by Stefanos & Shay is especially appropriate for event hosts and DMs but valuable for everyone.

    Come prepared to interact, roleplay, troubleshoot, and discuss various dungeon emergencies, mishaps, and conflicts in an engaging and entertaining presentation model.

  • You don’t need pomp & props to have hot, dirty, kinky sex…

    Let Maestro Stefanos, the Steward of The Upper Floor, and his partner Shay show you how to bring sexy discipline into your bedroom at home!

    Undressing, kissing, and dirty talk can all be integrated into your kinky foreplay. Stefanos and his partner, lifestyle switch & performer Shay, will give you concrete tools to create your own sexy scenes. They’ll include tips for establishing your Dominant controlling role and giving orders, demonstrating your submissive role, being in the moment, establishing consent, and playing without toys — using just your hands and mouth.

    The class closes with a live demo showing ways to give oral sex a kinky flair!

    (This class is a demo, lecture, discussion, and a small amount of hands-on.)

    Previous attendees have said:

    “My husband and I would like to thank you for your enlightening and entertaining workshop. We have been curious for years (me more than him, I fear) and, in our way, have attempted to emulate some kink suggestions we have found online. However, being given knowledgeable in-person instruction is a superior learning method for pursuing kinky sex. You provided a wealth of information we are trying to assimilate into our sex play, which will take time and practice (ok, lots). We hope to attend another workshop in the near future!” K & M

  • Bringing your kinky fantasies into reality can be a fraught process — this class will offer a crash course on understanding what about BDSM gets us off, terminology & safety, toys and types of play, defining your personal kinks, and more! Instructors Maestro Stefanos & Shay are staples of the local scene who host over 100 events a year in the Bay Area — they’ll give you a complete guide to getting out into the SF kink community, including venue details, tips on meeting people, and etiquette for playing in kinky spaces!

    Bring all your BDSM inquiries, as there will be plenty of time for Q & A, including an opportunity to submit your questions anonymously.

  • Let your animal out at the Critter Mosh with Stefanos & Shay (aka kitty Bianca)! The mosh pit also features an obedience challenge and recognition awards for handlers and critters like most agile, friendliest, messiest, cutest, silliest, most obedient, and more – after all, what critter doesn’t like to have a fancy ribbon to show off? The critter mosh is not just for puppies, kitties, ponies, dragons, and unicorns; single handlers or those who already have their hands (and leashes) full can come too. If you’ve never done pet play, arrive at the start for a brief orientation, or feel free to ask questions as we go along. New animals and handlers are welcome to explore… just don’t pee on the carpet!

Quotes and References

“Shay is a dynamic instructor, full of energy and sexy information that she shares in a really warm and memorable way. They are professional, efficient, and really pleasant to work with. They will raise the level of any event they participate in.” – Princess Kali, founder of Kink Academy

“Their classes balance extensive preparation and planning with impromptu opportunities for new ideas and suggestions. Shay does an excellent job of teaching while making sure everyone has a good time and feels a part of the learning process.” – Jason James, Managing Director of Mission Control

“A joy to watch and listen to, never a dull moment, wickedly entertaining with the hands-on knowledge needed for wonderful presenters who live the lifestyle with heart. By far one of our most dynamic and powerful presenters and always have a huge turnout for classes and events.” – August Knight and Phil Derby, owners of SF Citadel

“@ShayBlondie has been giving spectacular presentations… They’re sexy, consent-focused, and omg hilarious.” – @pervocracy

“Shay is beautiful, strong, and incredibly poised and self-assured, at least as far as one can tell while watching them perform. A star! And a hardworking ones, while also kind, open, and approachable. A national treasure is what I’m getting at!” – flightless

“Shay used a variety of strong presentational skills to get their points across, using brief role-played scenarios, anecdotes, audience interaction, and demonstrations. They covered a lot of ground. The seminar seemed to be over in minutes. It was fun, funny, engaging, and informative, and ultimately gave me some really valuable insights. I was left wanting more.” – @XanderBear

“I have attended eleven workshops in total [at Rome BDSM Conference]. All were very good (with just one possible exception). However Shay with their impressive presentation skills and their infectious personality were definitely in a league of their own.” – @DukeOfAlbany